CHAPTER 1
BEWARE OF YOUR PAST
Beware of our past, never let you’re past haunt; for this is the one thing that can hurt you and keep you from moving on. Either in the relationship you’re in or the relationship you are going into. See, your past is nothing more than a demonic ghost, trying to haunt you into believing you don’t have a future. But, in all reality you have to learn to cast down your former life and all it illuminates. Because, guess what? You can’t change it anyhow, what’s done is done. Repent, do an about face, ask God to remove it from your thought pattern, and ask God to lead you in the direction he would have for you to go.
When you bring your past, your past becomes a hindrance, which manifested into fear – [False Evidence Appearing Real] mentally killing you. You will find yourself never happy, never wanting to smile, barely wanting to eat, anti-social. All of this brings about stress in your mind and in your body, eventually causing health problems. So beware of your past, this is what the enemy doesn’t want you to know.
Paul said, “Forget those former things. Ephesians 4:22-24. “That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lust.”
In other words, “He said, you can’t reminisce about what’s in the past, that’s old, that’s done away with and that’s what is abiding in the old man; which is corrupt according to the deceitful lust {the nature of the devil}. But then he tells what to put on, to get beyond our past, “The new man”.
See you can’t be new until your first forget everything that’s old. Cast down those demons, those friends that say you won’t make it, those family members that won’t stand when you’re trying to stay connected to God and your mate in a relationship.
Quit allowing your past to be the forefront of your problems. Suck it up, quit fading in the old, if you’re going to be a Christian, be a Christian. Stand on faith, if you are not a Christian, come to salvation. Because, when you picked up this Book and began to read, you’ve taken the first step to your battles being almost over. Quit, allowing your past to be the fuel that wrecks relationships. The more you ad to it, the more it burns. When I got back with my wife, all I did was bring up what happened yesterday, or the day before and I found myself getting upset with her and she’s upset with me. But, still I kept dumping fuel on the fire. Just let it go. The bible says, “What man can add a cubit to his stature by worrying”? Matt 6:34 says, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof”. In other words tomorrow will have its own troubles, yesterday’s troubles have already passed and gone.
But, lot if us can’t get passed that. Because we’re too busy reminiscing on the hurt and the pain our significant other put us through or what we out them through. You cheated, but guess what GOD will forgive you: whether it was on God to no your mate. If you cheated on your mate, your cheated on God You broke your vow, and d you have no mate you cheated on GOD and broke your vows. IN a relationship or out of a relationship you still have cheated. You have to learn to forgive and forget. Some people say I can forgive but I can’t forget. That’s simply wrong because if you can’t forget you aren’t forgiven. IN my experiences when I didn’t forget and kept bringing up old things that happened in the yesterday, all I did was make wife angrier. So, we have to do like Christ did. We have to learn how to forgive. We have to learn how to blot out all of your past experiences. Because if you never forgive, your relationship will die, and I don’t say that lightly, because your past is a relationship killer, its relationship killer, it’s a reflection on your future.
Now listen this takes time, its not a overnight process. So, if you can seek counseling, seek professional help. See your local pastor, a licensed Christian counselor, anyone
That can and will help you get beyond your nightmares.
We can’t walk around in fear. Check this out, getting pass hurting each other is easy
To do, because people cheat all the time and still stay together. But, living in the past is
the hardest because now, you have to learn how to live w/o living in fear of what each
other is doing. See fear of your past will kill your relationship fast, it will stop you
from launching into your future. See Dwelling on your past is an illegal weapon that harms and destroys the future that God has set up for you.
What it does, is redirect your path, ultimately sending you down another road. Be with the person God has place in your life, everything and everyone else getting rid of it will only bless you. Cut off all you hindrances. Men live your wives as Christ so loved the church, and yourselves. Because I know we love ourselves. Some of us walk around in our world. Come down off that high horse, gentleman, Learn to be humble, we’re not all that our stuff stinks too.
Ladies, respect your husbands, uplift him all he does. Quit bringing up what he did yesterday. Doing this will launch you both into your futures.
See in my past I lost some things, some spiritual and some physical. But that’s okay, because my loss caused me to gain some things also. God gave me back what was important to me, my family! That my friend is worth more to me than my past cold ever offer. Because now my present is full and my future is brighter, and my past is over.
Don’t ask questions you don’t want to know the answer too. Not that you’re lying but always remember the truth hurts id you go too much in detail it could mentally destroy your relation ship. No one wants to really know about the person your mate was involved with; the personal details of you indiscretion. The personal details are no good. Just leave well enough alone and restore back that which the enemy has stolen away from you.
But, also remember this; your past can also work in your favor. Because what you go through can also humble you to the point, you don’t want to ever mess up again. It allows, you to see what you really have and already had. SO, ladies and gentlemen cherish what you have and everything else, leave it alone. This is where you are right now, decision making time. Are you going to stay and dwell or get on the bus of your future and ride off into the sunset away from the mess in your life, into a new beginning, a right place in God, A fresh new start?