See You On the Other Side of Through
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How are you to handle life when the bad times come? First, no matter who you are, how much you have, or how little you have, you are right where you are supposed to be. If it is a troubled mess that you find yourself in, it was chosen for you; but only for a while.... Even so, it is important to move on. Ask God to help you and show you what you are to learn from each trying situation that you find yourself participating in.
The following is an excerpt from Pepper's personal journal regarding her first of two experiences with miscarriages. Unlike the second occasion, only a handful of people knew of the first pregnancy.
4/25/2013
So yesterday I finally went to the doctor. I am pregnant! What have I done? What
seemed like a good idea (taking out the Nuvaring birth control) now seems like my worst mistake. I am not married. I am not engaged. I am alone. Yeah Tim is still around, but I just feel so all alone. I went to his place yesterday to tell him. He was speechless. He also refused to turn the TV off to talk to me. He would rather watch wrestling than discuss this big event for both of us. I just graduated with my doctorate. I’m looking for a job. I have no idea what Tim is doing. I just want to leave. I am scared. What do I do now? This is big. I will have to pay for all of this. I am paying for it financially, emotionally, psychologically, and physically. I have been trying to check in with Tim to see how he is doing with it, but he says nothing.
I (Tim) had to go through many trials and tribulations to prepare me for the one woman God prepared just for me. In their own way, the other women were nice and sweet, but not the wife for me. As hard as it was for me to experience the pain of going through two divorces, I had to experience it to prepare me for greater.
Sometimes we have to experience a set-back before the set-up. This is
only a temporary set-back that has been purposely assigned to you. No matter how debilitating or frustrating it may be, know that God handpicked you just as He handpicked and favored Job. According to scripture, Job was a perfect and an upright man, one that feared God and eschewed evil (Job 1:8 KJV). Sure you may say, “But I’m not perfect. Are you working towards obedience to God? Do you use your gifts for good and not evil? Do you repent when you go astray? Yes, it is true, all have sinned. Yet His desire is that all of His followers seek righteousness. God said, “Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect (Matthew 5:48 KJV).
Life is full of surprises and disappointments. When you have lemons, don't fret; simply make lemonade. If you have the whole lemon tree; sell the lemons then cut the tree into pieces and sell it for firewood. Basically, make your situation work for you, play the hand that you are dealt. No matter how dim the outlook appears, God never gives us more than we can bare and provides a way out if we only look for it. Ask Him to bless you. Perhaps you are not the praying type or you don’t know what to say. Try learning the prayer of Jabez....
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About the Book
See You On the Other Side of Through presents an honest and unblinking look at the challenges facing a contemporary Christian couple striving to live together faithfully. Pepper and Timothy Totten offer shared insights that reveal the details of their own personal battles. By presenting the travails and triumphs of their own lives and by bringing key passages from the Bible into the conversation, they have crafted a shared memoir that reveals the great truth of how the Christian faith offers hope no matter what.
Each of the brief chapters in See You On the Other Side of Through begins with a scriptural passage and then shares a narrative that explores the ups and downs of the Tottens’ life together, the wisdom flowing from the Scriptures, and the hope and encouragement that one can find in this mix.
This memoir documents how God makes His presence known in daily life, how belief can persist and indeed thrive in the midst of adversity.Whether the reader needs a completely new outlook on a current situation, a little encouragement to pursue a dream, or a renewed commitment to a relationship, this book of hope provides readers with a spiritual basis of compelling, profound, and transforming courage.
About the Author
Dr. Pepper E. Totten, an author and certified rehabilitation counselor, lectures and leads workshops on spiritual matters, social justice, gender, and race relations.
Pastor Timothy K. Totten has been a spiritual leader and ordained minister for more than 15 years. Currently, he is serving as Senior Pastor of Union Hill MB Church in Hernando, MS. He travels widely preaching and teaching the Word of God. Pastor Totten, along with his wife, conducts couples counseling and post-marital seminars. He is also the proud husband of Dr. Totten and father of two daughters and one son.